Why people date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded issue that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on from ancient times. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with evils, cause sadness, and other troubles. Plus you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and openness matter, funds, age difference, spiritual background, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this post I shall classify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, discteet married dating.
Why do people have extramarital affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking an affair. I am conserned mostly though it is only the human nature, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a small period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Someone can switch the desire on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another individual, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These wishes and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but society too. So why, what is the method?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your family or anybody else? You will need to lessen the danger you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfortable in the way they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your funds are so knotted. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sadly this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a male I truly am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be caring is gone, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Maybe we have just developed separately, our ordinary concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Maybe I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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